Let's discuss being a step parent! It can be a wonderful experience. It can also be the worst experience you've ever had. In my own personal experience I've learned that one of the biggest keys to being a step parent is to let the biological parent be the disciplinarian. You certainly do not allow the child to walk all over you. But when it comes to laying down a punishment (ex. grounding), leave that to the other parent. Being a step parent is hard enough, if you do the discipline you will only be the bad guy. It's easier for the child to think it's the step parents fault and be mad at them. If the step parent does the punishments the child forms the opinion in their head that the biological parent wouldn't have choosen that if the step parent hadn't been in the picture. In our house we don't use labels. My husband already had our oldest child when I met him. I love that child very much as my own. That child made me a mommy. In our house we firmly believe you don't marry a man that already has children unless you plan to love that child as your own. Of course, we also do not believe it's the blood pumping through our veins that make us a parent/family. Love isn't determined by DNA.
Well, there's my ramblings for the day. Hope everyone is geared up for a happy new year!
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Christmas
Merry Christmas Everyone.
I do not want to hear anymore sad stories about people who are sad because they don't have their loved ones at Christmas. I do recognize their grieving and miss someone terribly. But this is the day we celebrate the birth of Jesus. I can't think of anything greater than that. Because of God giving his only son for us we have life, we can be forgiven. Our loved ones that passed away and believed and asked for his forgiveness are living in Heaven. That's because of our Lord. Look past your own self for just a minute and take time to celebrate the Jesus' birthday. It's worth putting your own feelings aside for.
I do hope everyone has a very merry Christmas! God Bless!
I do not want to hear anymore sad stories about people who are sad because they don't have their loved ones at Christmas. I do recognize their grieving and miss someone terribly. But this is the day we celebrate the birth of Jesus. I can't think of anything greater than that. Because of God giving his only son for us we have life, we can be forgiven. Our loved ones that passed away and believed and asked for his forgiveness are living in Heaven. That's because of our Lord. Look past your own self for just a minute and take time to celebrate the Jesus' birthday. It's worth putting your own feelings aside for.
I do hope everyone has a very merry Christmas! God Bless!
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Just me ranting!
I'm not against social networking. In fact, I love it. It's fun! But do we really have to be ugly or mean or fight over status posts? I've seen several getting angry about this number thing people are doing on their status now. They are "tired of it" & going to "delete people" if they don't stop playing the game. Seriously, how childish can one be? Who cares if they play the game? It's all in fun! If you choose not to participate, that's your choice. I'm not participating, but I certainly won't be deleting anyone who is. I changed my profile picture to a cartoon picture last week. Gee, hope that didn't offend anyone. What is the point in spending your day being angry over something so petty? Let's be adults about this. I will never understand how people can have so much anger in themselves. You life is what you make of it. If you choose to be angry and stressed out, you will be. If you let go of all that, you'll find a much happier life waiting for you.
Next on my ranting list: what happened to todays youth? Why are they so rude and disrespectful? These kids ranging from 12 to 20 blow my mind. They have no manners. They think they are adults and know everything! I've ran across a few lately that need some serious discipline. When a 12 year old looks 25, there's a problem. When a 19 year old starts treating the adults in her life with disrespect & displays a complete lack of manners, there's a problem. Anyone else seen this kind of behavior lately or is it just me?
Next on my ranting list: what happened to todays youth? Why are they so rude and disrespectful? These kids ranging from 12 to 20 blow my mind. They have no manners. They think they are adults and know everything! I've ran across a few lately that need some serious discipline. When a 12 year old looks 25, there's a problem. When a 19 year old starts treating the adults in her life with disrespect & displays a complete lack of manners, there's a problem. Anyone else seen this kind of behavior lately or is it just me?
Maid?
How many moms out there think they were put on this earth to be a maid? Well, today is my pity party day! After making my child's bed, picking up her dishes & putting them on sink when she was finished eating, making a cup for the other child, taking him breakfast in bed, cleaning the water mess my husband made on the kitchen counter, then making sure everyone was ready and out the door.... I'm pretty sure I was put here to be a maid. Yes, I know it's all part of being a mom. But come on now, do something for yourself. They can't all be completely dependent on me 24/7! I need a moment too. This all took place before I had a cup of coffee! There's my complaint for today. Oh wait, I have another, how many times do I have to say no before my children will understand what it means? Sometimes I wonder if the language they hear me speaking is not English. Is it possible they don't understand me? Haha!
Monday, December 6, 2010
Christmas Shopping
I have done the majority of my christmas shopping this year online. It's great. Only 3 gifts I physically went to the store and purchased.
Here's a little something I want to share: If your child finds out, by whatever means, that Santa isn't real, get over it! He's not real. Does a man really come down your chimney and bring your kids gifts? If he does, please send him my way because I've been buying those gifts myself all these years. I understand wanting your child to hold on to that belief as long as possible. It's youthful and fun. But if they happen to find out the truth, don't be mad. It happens and it's inevitable! It's ridiculous to be angry about it. My child questions it all the time. I simply tell her if she chooses to believe then he is real and he's real in her heart if she wants him to be. I tell her to make her own mind about it and don't listen to what others have to say. She says, "well then, I think he's real." I realize that won't always be her answer and I'm ok with that too. Yes, I want our children to be children as long as possible. But I certainly will not be angry at another child for telling my child that santa isn't real. It's called life. It happens.
Here's a little something I want to share: If your child finds out, by whatever means, that Santa isn't real, get over it! He's not real. Does a man really come down your chimney and bring your kids gifts? If he does, please send him my way because I've been buying those gifts myself all these years. I understand wanting your child to hold on to that belief as long as possible. It's youthful and fun. But if they happen to find out the truth, don't be mad. It happens and it's inevitable! It's ridiculous to be angry about it. My child questions it all the time. I simply tell her if she chooses to believe then he is real and he's real in her heart if she wants him to be. I tell her to make her own mind about it and don't listen to what others have to say. She says, "well then, I think he's real." I realize that won't always be her answer and I'm ok with that too. Yes, I want our children to be children as long as possible. But I certainly will not be angry at another child for telling my child that santa isn't real. It's called life. It happens.
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